Reese Witherspoon in Elle Magazine
“You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it’s a really easy thing to do, and I’m certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, ‘What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility? And that’s the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it.”
in therapy (yes i have a therapist and we've been seeing each other for something like 5 years, twice a month for 45 minutes) we talk about this topic all the time. blame. confronting my own role in the demise of my marriage keeps me focused on accepting responsibility, acknowledging that i'm not perfect and learning ways to continue being honest with myself so i don't make the same mistakes again.
i spend a lot of time during the sessions in tears and usually leave feeling completely exhausted. but every week it gets a little better and one day, hopefully, i can forgive myself for the mistakes i made along the way.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
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3 fabulous comments, click to add yours!:
Nothing like good therapy to heal. Been there, done that, and it does work, but it sure takes a lot of work to get there!!
You know, I used to think therapy was bunk, BUT then I saw a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist for just under a year, and it sounds like a cliche but it did change my life.
It's a great way to learn to deal with the past and move on. Keep at it.
The only down side I found was that I'd talk about it or say, 'Oh, I can't make it, I'm seeing my therapist' and it made me feel like Woody Allen!
since liam was sick thursday / friday i had to work this weekend & i missed my therapy appointment, which is really too bad because i REALLY needed it
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