stop, start

daweski told me a story about his dad. he had it pretty rough from his dad when he was a child. during his teen years he didn't see his father for a long time. daweski spent years hating his dad from afar. plotting revenge. suffering over the 'injustices' his dad caused him. blaming his dad for the way his life had turned out, blaming his dad for every bad decision he made, for every wrong turn and rotten choice that led him to where he was. 

one day - years later (years he would never get back) - he made peace with his dad. when he did, he learned that all the time he spent hating his dad, his dad had no clue that his son hated him.

his dad had no idea that daweski hated him. his dad didn't spend his days obsessing over the fact that daweski was mad. his dad didn't spend one second wondering how he could make it up to him. his dad had no idea that daweski was spending all this time and expelling all this energy toward hating on him from afar.

all those years. all that wasted hate. the only person who suffered from hating his dad was daweski. his dad sure didn't suffer, how could he since he didn't even know? the only person who was harmed through the hate was the person who did the hating. 

the moral of this story?

make peace with yesterday. live for today. make plans to have a happy future. 

stop hating. start forgiving. take responsibility for your choices and actions. they are yours and yours alone.